There are so many reasons why hookup dating is awesome. For starters, you’ll be connecting with women who don’t want committed relationships and are just looking for guys who can get them off. Add to that the fact that you won’t have to worry about calling them / texting them back OR about lining up more dates and you have what amounts to the best scenario ever. However, there are some things about hookup dating you should be aware of, and one of the main ones is the fact that a lot of people use this kind of dating as a way to cheat on their partners. If you don’t have an issue with that you’re probably good to go, but what happens when you start hooking up with a woman who’s already married or involved in a long-term romantic relationship?
So maybe you and this gorgeous and beautiful woman have been hitting it off really well both in and out of bed. Maybe you’re really enjoying her company. Now you find out that she’s actually married and is using you to cheat. Depending on what type of dude you are, you’re either going to react one of two ways: overreaction or acceptance. If the idea of being the “other man” freaks you out, this situation isn’t going to sit well with you. However, there are a couple of things you need to remember before you freak out. First of all, hookup dating means by it’s very name that there aren’t supposed to be any attachments or commitments, and if you’re overreacting it’s probably because you’re feeling attached to her. Secondly, you need to keep in mind that she’s a grown woman and she knows what she’s doing. It’s not your place to judge her based on her infidelity. From this point you can either call it quits from your moral high ground or you can choose to keep hooking up with her. Again, what you decide depends on what kind of person you are.
So you found out she’s engaged to another dude and now you’re curious, which is only normal. Being nosy will probably either make her really uncomfortable, upset, or piss her off. On top of that, remember that the less you know, the better. If her man realizes someday that he’s being cheated on he’s probably going to be out for blood, and if you know next to nothing about her except for the fact that she’s had sex with you a couple times, it’ll turn out better for you.
Don’t Make It a Competition
You might find it flattering that she’s choosing to cheat on her partner with you and in a lot of ways that’s true. It also might be tempting for you to start comparing yourself and the things you do to her partner, but that’s a very bad call. Asking if you’re better in bed will upset her or piss her off, and when that happens you probably won’t be getting any at all.