Whether it’s in person or online, it can be hard to tell when a woman is brushing you off. Since most of our communications lie in texts or messaging through sites the emotion and social cues that we normally go off of are totally lost. You don’t want to end up looking jerk just because you can’t tell that she’s not interested. Watch for a few signs that she’s brushing you off to save yourself the trouble and move on.
It’s All in the Message
“She is not replying”
People often feel the need to keep messaging someone who’s talking to them even if they aren’t interested. It might be out of politeness or just guilt, but whatever the case you’ll see that her answers are short and sparing. There’s not a lot of detail or information involved in her messages. Even if she says that she’s busy, the lack of words should show you that she just isn’t interested. Frequency is another factor. Just like with texting, if you find that you have to wait days just to hear back from her then you should start messaging other women.
In Person
Whether you’ve decided to meet in person after talking online or it just happened that way, it doesn’t always mean that she’s interested. After your first date, did she seem eager to set up another? When people find someone they really like, women especially, they’ll want to be around them as much as possible. There’s constant texting and a feeling of excitement between the two of you. After waiting a few days give her a call to see if she’d like to go out again. If she’s coming up with excuses then that’s probably because she doesn’t. If she does that twice then she definitely doesn’t. A woman will make the time to see you if that’s at the top of her list.
During the Date
“Read her body language and pick up signs how she’s feeling”
You may even get so far as a date, but like we mentioned she may be doing it out of guilt or politeness. When you’re on your date you should be able to read her face, but a big red flag is her ending the date early. There are a ton of excuses (she has to work early, has to pick up the kids, needs to help a friend with something) that she can use to get out of there as soon as possible. Dates should end naturally, if yours doesn’t then take the hint and start talking to someone else.
It’s easy to say that there are signs to look for, but more often than not you’ll find that you don’t even need them. When you have to ask yourself, “Is she brushing me off, or am I just thinking it?” then the chances are that you already know the answer. Your gut will guide you better than anything, so listen to it. Women are tricky, but at least you’ll get more familiar with figuring out who does want to be around by keeping these tips up your sleeve.
