A lot of dudes think that hookup dating is the way to go and most of the time they’re right. This is because you’re basically just getting together with women who have no interest in actual relationships and are just looking to get some. However, sometimes when sex is involved emotions become involved as well, which can make things messy when you try and move on. If you end up with a hookup partner who seems to have more in mind than just sex every other week, you’re going to have to figure out how to put her in the friend zone without there being too much drama or blowback. Luckily for you, it’s not that hard to do.
Remind Her of Why You Met
“I want sex not a relationship”
If you hooked up with her, the reason was that you were both horny. You went into it without expecting anything but sex and so did she, so you can use that against her if she decides to try and get you to commit. She can’t pretend that you led her on into thinking that this was going to turn into something long-term because that’s not what a hookup is. Reminding her of this will let her know that you have zero interest in becoming boyfriend material. While she’ll probably be upset, she can’t really argue with you because she totally knew what she was getting into the first time the two of you hooked up.
Tell Her You’re Not Ready
Being as this is likely the truth, she can’t really dispute you over it. If you’re not ready for a relationship you’re not ready, and no amount of her nagging or trying to push you into one is going to help. Tell that if you had been ready for a relationship you wouldn’t have looked to hook up with a woman you didn’t know that well and that instead, you would have looked to actually start dating before having sex. This is a logical argument that can’t really be refuted, and she’ll have to accept that you’d rather be friends than boyfriend-girlfriend.
Explain the Attraction
“Tell her you don’t see her as a romantic partner”
It’s going to be hard for her to hear, but you might need to explain to her the nature of the attraction you’ve got going on. If you truly want to friend zone her, you’re going to have to say that you don’t treat her romantic soul mate. Instead, you see her as more of a friend. It could be kind of tricky to get this point across being as you’ve been hooking up with her regularly, but you can also explain that lust doesn’t equal love. The bottom line is that you don’t love her and you never will, but you’d still like to be her friend (hopefully with benefits).
No More Sex
If you’re looking to friend zone her, the one thing you should do right away is cut yourself off from her sexually. Continuing to sleep with her is just going to send mixed messages, which is going to make it harder to get her to understand your intention. By removing the sexual situation from your relationship, you’re driving the point home that you’re not looking for any kind of romantic attachment at all.
