Dirty talk is always glorified in women’s dating magazines. Not only are they trying to get women to initiate it by saying silly things such as, “Your huge member is so hot” and the like, they’re trying to get men to do the same thing. It’s become something of an expected thing for men to be able to drop dirty talk at a moment’s notice. Unless you’re a natural Casanova, the fact of the matter is that you’re probably bad at talking sexy. That’s because as guys we’re visual, not into all of the auditory, fantasy type stuff. Sure, hearing her moan or say a few words of praise will always be welcome, but full sentences…that’s just asking too much.

Start Small

You don’t have to go in with a full arsenal of dialogue to get you through your next romp. Start small with your dirty talk. She’ll notice if you drop, “You’re so sexy” into the foreplay next time. It doesn’t have to be much, or even specific, it just has to exist. But this can only take you so far. Pick a few things that you really love about her when you’re getting it on or flirting. Talk about how tight she is or how smooth her skin would feel against yours. Whether you’ve met or you’re just chatting online, you should always have some compliment ready to be said in the middle of foreplay. It could work in other contexts, but adding it to a spot in the conversation where she’s hinting about sex will up the appeal for her.

Don’t Be Afraid to Repeat

While you don’t want to sound like a broken record, you shouldn’t be afraid to repeat yourself. Chances are that there will be something that you say that will turn her on like nothing else. Say it every time you have sex or talk, just in varying ways. You could change the language that you use or just the tone. If you can function, listen to the words that she uses when she’s with you. Chat logs are better for this since you can always look back on them when you’re not muddled up in sexting. You’ll probably find that she’s very repetitive, you just haven’t noticed because you’re so turned on. The same thing goes for her.

Sound Cheesy

It will feel stupid, but you just have to jump in and sound cheesy. Sure, you’d never refer to her norks as tits in real life, but this is the time to use those kind of words. Sounding cheesy or crass is okay in the bedroom and then you never talk about it again. If you’re chatting with her and feel slightly embarrassed then you’re probably doing it right. She won’t fault you if it sounds a bit silly, she’ll actually really enjoy it.

Say My Name

In the event that you’re completely tongue-tied then resort to her favorite word: her name. As humans we love the sound of our name. Whisper or moan hers and she’ll be putty in your hands. Putty that melted quickly thanks to your single-worded dirty talk.